Being a Single Mum

being a single mum

Life As a Single Mum

The life of a single mum eh. Not only am I a single mum, I’m a single mum who does this shit solely alone 98% of the time. Their dad barely has them, barely provides for them and as for any help from family? Don’t make me laugh!

Here’s the thing though, I don’t let that shit stress me, instead, I let it empower me, let it help me grow. Grow as a woman, as a mother and as a business owner. It’s no joke owning 2 businesses, bringing up 2 children and trying to put healthy food on the table… oh and keep my house in order. BUT I thrive on that shit!

What Drives Me Forward

Having been in what turned out to be an abusive marriage and me finding the courage to walk away, I used that negative emotion to drive me forward and succeed. I had to rely on part state benefits years ago for some time, but I turned my life around and now need to rely on nobody but my damn self for the last however many years!!

YES! I’m bloody proud. No, I’m not showing off as someone on my page told me once because I’d put a photo of a home cooked meal on my page (some people eh) but yes I am damn proud of what I have achieved. You see, I know lots of other women who are single mums and they have excuses as long as their arm why they can’t work, let along start their own businesses. I decided to not have the mindset of excuses, but use the negativity in my life to drive me forward.

I’d look at my two babies (only toddlers back then) and used to tell myself I would do it for them, I would show them you can work, have kids and get the right balance in life. As I sit here now, in November 2018, I am proud of where I am. A homeowner, good food on the table, I do the school runs, cooking for the kids and going away a couple of times a year. What more could I possibly ask for? And to think I do this with no help with the kids. Of course I’m proud, why wouldn’t I be? Thankfully I surround myself with the type of women where we all have one another backs and we help one another, support one another and celebrate one another successes.

I wish the same for everyone I know, to find that perfect balance (or as close as you can get to it) and that feeling of contentment.

I’m waffling a little (I do that a lot) I’m a little tired, so I’m going to log off now. Have a great rest of the week my loves.

~ Sonya

empowering women


Mother-F*cker of a Man!!

So I posted this lovely blog after I’d met a fab man (or so I thought) and things were going really well. I won’t lie, last week a couple of small alarm bells rang, but I thought it was just me being cautious. But then Monday, yet Again he changes plans, just expecting me to go along with it, but this time I decided to say No. That it wasn’t ok to keep doing that (this must have been the 4th time) and that I can’t just drop everything to suit him. Well, that didn’t go down well!!

Outspoken Women

Suddenly he’s spouting ‘I need my own space’ ‘you want to know what I’m doing all the time’ utter BULLSHIT! I’m not the kind of woman who needs to be texting every 5min and when he is with his friends I always leave him to it. He’d been out partying in London all weekend and I was totally cool with it, I just got on with my thing. So I told him to jog the fuck on and to take all the space he needed, because I was outta there!!

It seemed to likes strong women who know their mind but not when they spoke their mind and he doesn’t like what they’re saying! Mother fucker, he met the wrong woman!

Then my ex goes and cancels on the kids for this weekend, I was SO angry, that yet again, he thinks this is ok. I laid into that man in a way I haven’t before. The anger all came out in such a rage. I have now cut him off. The children have his number, they can contact him. For me though, I’m done.

Don’t Fuck With Me

I’m in very much a ‘don’t fuck with me’ mood – I won’t tolerate anything from anyone this week. There are probably 100 errors in this blog post, I’m typing so bloody fast! I’m glad I have written this post and gotten it out of my system a little.

don't fuck with me

You know what too? This experience with this seemingly wonderful man has shown me one thing – how much I have grown. That I care about ME enough to say ENOUGH. That I walked away from the signs, that I am not desperate and that I won’t settle.

So I am putting this in the Women Success Stories, because I rock and so do you.

~ Sonya

Feeling The Love

I’m Feeling the Love

Yep – Totally feeling the love since meeting this amazing guy, so I wanted to share some quotes with you that have stood out to me recently. Quotes I have seen milling around online but I’ve not really resonated with them until just recently, because I have not experienced them.

These quotes now make total sense to me 🙂

~ Sonya

When You Meet Someone Amazing

Meeting Someone Amazing

I did it, I finally met someone. Not in what you’d call an unconventional way these days, Tinder would you believe! Don’t you go believing that they’re all idiots on there, I have dated a few nice guys from being on there, I just didn’t fall for them. Then this man came along a few weeks ago into my life and I’m utterly falling for him and he for me.

Last month I felt lonely, like I wasn’t meant to be with someone. 4 years single and how could I have such little luck?! THEN it happened and as a friend said to me last week ‘it was like all the shit from the last few years has brought you to This moment’ and it’s actually perfectly true.

meeting someone new

We have been out on dates, spend dates in, laughed, joked, kissed (and the rest) and talked about our lives and what we want. He is a scientist (a doctor of science even) check me out lol! And he is amazing. I feel like my life has taken this sudden U bend in the road of life and I’ve ended up in this perfect destination that I never knew existed.

I just wanted to share with you how happy I am.

~ Sonya